A friend told me last night, “Everyone has flaws.” Of course, everyone does. It’s just that when it comes to my best friends, the people i love, i have a much harder time accepting flaws. Because i’m too much of an idealist.
I hold the people i love to a much higher standard. I want them to be perfect. I want them to be the kind of people everyone respects, adores, and emulates. I want them to be the shining ideal of a person, a representation of all the things i stand for. And when they fail to be that, i’m crushed and inconsolable. It hurts me deeply.
And that makes me afraid i’ll never be happy with anyone.
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I totally agree with you. I also have a hard time dealing with that. If it’s my parents or other relatives that I cannot avoid, I would get very irritated. If it’s my friends I would avoid them for a while until I remember the good things about them. And as for significant others, well I don’t have any since I haven’t found a guy who is perfect, and those I was attracted to for a while manifest their flaws after you get to know them well, and to me that’s a big turn off. But at the same time those people that we really care we also do a lot more to tolerate them than we would with other people.